The Bridges We Cross

We’ve all been there, standing at the edge of something that terrifies us, watching everyone else move forward while we stay firmly rooted to the spot, convinced that “forward” just isn’t an option for us.

For me, that moment was literal.

On a recent family holiday, we visited a suspension bridge. I am not comfortable with heights, and as I looked at the narrow walkway swaying high above the ground, my instinct kicked in. Nope. Not for me.

So, I did what a lot of us do when we feel frozen by fear: I made myself useful. I pulled out my phone and became the photographer. I watched my family laugh and walk across, capturing their bravery from the safety of solid ground. I had completely accepted my limitation. I couldn’t do it, and that was that.

Then, the universe sent the exact support I needed, in the form of my son.

When my family returned to me, my son asked me why I didn’t come with them and said something that struck me.
“You can do it. I’ll come with you if you like.”
He didn’t lecture me on engineering safety. He didn’t tell me my fear was silly. He just offered a simple shift in the dynamic: I didn’t have to face it alone.
And so, we did it, together, step by step. With him just standing by my side, I walked across that suspension bridge. He didn’t carry me; he just loaned me his faith in me until I could find my own. He showed me that I could do it, simply by being there.

Unlocking Your Inner Resources

When we think of “support,” we often think of grand gestures or experts giving us a magic formula. But my son taught me that the most powerful support is often incredibly quiet. He didn’t give me new legs or take away the bridge’s height. What he actually did was help me access my own inner strength and resources buried beneath my fear.

We don’t always need someone to solve our problems for us. What we need are the people who will walk across that bridge with us. We need people in our lives who will stand by us, have faith in us, and help us see what we are truly capable of.

Walking the Bridge Together: How a Coach Can Help

This is exactly why I do the work I do as a coach.

Often, we look at our goals, our fears, or the big changes we want to make in our lives, and we feel just like I did at the edge of that bridge. We tell ourselves, “I can’t do that,” and we settle for taking photos from the sidelines of our own lives.

As a coach, my role isn’t to push you across the bridge or carry you over it. My role is to be like my son in that moment: to walk back to where you are, stand by your side, and remind you of the immense strength and resources you already have inside you.

You don’t have to face the big, scary, swaying moments of life alone. Together, we can look at what’s holding you back, tap into your innate resilience, and take those steps forward, one at a time.

Who’s on Your Bridge?

If you are standing on the edge of a metaphorical suspension bridge right now, whether it’s a career change, a tough decision, or a personal goal that feels too daunting, remember: You do not have to walk it alone.

Hyper-independence can be a lonely island. True strength lies in looking at the person offering their hand and saying, “Okay. Let’s do it together.”

If you’re ready to find your inner strength and take that next step, I am here to walk with you. Let’s connect and cross that bridge together.

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